The Opposite of Love


Yesterday our pastor friend dude said that fear is the opposite of love. You know that well-quoted verse, love is patient, love is kind? Well, he turned it inside out and inserted fear.

Fear is impatient and unkind. Fear is jealous and boastful and proud and rude. It demands its own way. It is irritable, and it keeps records of being wronged. It rejoices in injustice and lies. Fear gives up, loses faith, is always without hope and does not endure through every circumstances.

I’ve known fear to be a paralyzing emotion, I’ve never thought of it like this before. We are without love when we let fear rule our hearts. Isn’t that what we’ve been seeing lately on the news, in politics, on Facebook? Fear gives way to hate. It doesn’t matter what side of the fence you’re on, if we are running around in fear, we are not loving each other.

Seeing fear described as such definitely hit home with me. I’ve been pretty impatient and irritable these last few days, weeks. Ha! When I’m impatient with my kids, I’m being fearful of what others might think, even if there’s no one around. I wonder what other actions have stemmed from fear?

It got me thinking. See, I just read Heartless, Veiled Rose, and Moonblood by Anne Elisabeth Stengl back to back, so Leo, Prince Lionheart jumped to my mind. His whole life was consumed in fear, his choices stemmed from fear. He betrayed the heart of the one he loved, banished his only friend, and a myriad of other choices that brought him to the point where he had to face the truth of his actions.

So what say you? Have you thought of it like this before? Do you agree, disagree?


10 thoughts on “The Opposite of Love

  1. Great post, J.L. The United States is definitely dominated by fear these days, and it is indeed paralyzing us.

    • J. L. Mbewe says:

      Thanks for stopping by Kassandra. I’m reminded of something Martin Luther King Jr. said:

      “Men often hate each other because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don’t know each other; they don’t know each other because they can not communicate; they can not communicate because they are separated.”

      “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

  2. Catherine Johnson says:

    That goes woth our sermon about listening. If there were better listeners there’d be more understanding etc. Great post!

  3. kaseygiard says:

    I love how you tied in the books. I have found that series to be so rich in themes of faith. I hadn’t ever heard the passage of scripture turned inside out like that – really made me think. Thanks!

    • J. L. Mbewe says:

      Thanks Kasey! I just love the Tales of Goldstone Wood. I agree, they are rich in so many ways, I can get lost in their world over and over, and be richer for it. 🙂

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  5. This was a wonderful post… and something I very much needed to hear right now. I can’t thank you enough, Jennette.

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